It's called Instigated Behavior. "Instigated behavior" means: When someone makes you mad, and you do something in return to them. It is not your fault, because the other person instigated the behavior. The other person is the one who brought on the behavior. Men get this wrong all the time. Many good people are locked up because of instigated behavior. Man judged them unfairly, Not knowing what instigated the behavior.